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Saturday, November 23, 2019

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Ruminations on Thanksgiving: What Are We Thankful For?

As some of our readers may know, my son Eric, z”l, took his own life less than four years ago, after suffering from mental health challenges for 14 years, since he was 14 years old. While I know this column is usually dedicated to issues around recovery—usually referring to recovery from addictions—I am taking the liberty of

Is It Shayach?

(Permission granted to reprint from The Yated Magazine Shidduch Forum, August 2, 2019)

 Question:

A shadchan thinks of a shidduch and suggests the idea to both sides. The boy’s side calls the references and gets very good information. The girl’s

Friends Setting Up Friends: Our Children’s Inspirational Capacity to Look Out for One Another

With only one experience under my belt, I don’t know whether the phenomenon I witnessed was singular or representative of a larger trend. After tremendous collective anxiety about applying to seminary in Israel and the subsequent wondering and waiting came to an end at the beginning of yeshiva week, two amazing things happened. First,

Eight Tips for Dating Smart

Today’s dating scene is often hyper-focused on externals. “Great catches” are described as people who are professionally successful or physically attractive, rather than people who possess character and integrity. But behind the impeccable resume and beautiful presentation there is a real person. How does one get to know the

Seven Steps to Mentschhood

Step # 4
Part 3

פתח תפתח את ידך לאחיך לעניך ולאבינך בארצך

“Open your hand to your brother, to your poor and to the needy in your land.” (Devarim 15:11)

The noted psychologist

Within Those Childhood Memories Are Important Life Skills

When my father returned to the States after serving in the Army Air Corps during World War II, he bought a pet supply retail store in Greenwich, Connecticut, called The Pet Pantry. In those days it was not unusual for people to feed their dogs fresh ground beef and ground horse meat. My father’s employee would grind the meat and

Which Plane Are You On?

I was eagerly gearing up for my international trip. I planned on traveling to Europe and touring Greece. In order to prepare, I began studying the language of the country and researched the different sites I hoped to visit. I really wanted to be ready for all the new experiences, so I also started eating various Greek delicacies. I

Papercuts Art Show Closing November 24 at Stanton Street Shul

Stanton Street Shul, a historic and active synagogue on the Lower East Side, is hosting its latest art show: “The Pen and the Knife: Jewish Papercuts.” The show is running through this Sunday, November 24.

Papercutting has been a common Jewish art form since the Middle Ages, connected with various

That One Moment, and the Meaning We Give It

This is the story of two brothers. Not two biblical brothers, with opposing personalities and years of raging jealousy and trickery. Two ordinary brothers, six years apart in age, and miles apart in personality. As ordinary brothers are wont to do, sometimes they get along well, but most of the time, they get under each other’s

What Are the Chances?

My father’s 22nd yahrzeit fell on the weekend of a bar mitzvah we attended in Charlotte, North Carolina. While out of town on the occasion, it meant a lot to me to be at services celebrating another religious event.

The stained-glass windows of Temple Israel

Seven Steps to Mentchhood

Step #4

Part 2

פתח תפתח את ידך לאחיך לעניך ולאבינך בארצך

“Open your hand to your brother, to your poor and to the needy in your land.”

A Story of the Chafetz Chaim

Paraphrased from “Love Your Neighbor” by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, pp. 302-303.

When he

iDeclutter Shares Yard Sale Tips

In last month’s column, we left off with the cliffhanger question several of my clients have asked me: Now that we have purged so much from our rooms/house do we have enough to hold a yard sale?

To make a credible yard sale, you must have several components: