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Tuesday, October 24, 2017

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Because It Matters: Consistency – The Golden Rule

It’s a funny thing how my children are programmed when it comes to playing with a muktzah toy on Shabbat. They know it is not permitted and they would not dare test those waters. But, when it comes to bedtime, curfew, or other household rules, they are somehow less inclined, in general, to abide. It’s as if there is a barrier between the fourth

Stop Being So Negative: A Parent’s Guide To Understanding Negativity In Children

After a long day of school, Reuven comes home to tell his mother about the contest that is going to be taking place in his class. Here is a conversation between Reuven and his mother:

Reuven: In class today, Rebbi told us that we are going to be having a contest. Each talmid will be allowed to sell raffle tickets. If we sell $100.00 worth of

Dear Rabbi Sam:

Dear Rabbi:

My husband and I are proud parents of three boys, ages, 12, 10 and 7. Our oldest son has been requesting an i-Pad for his bar mitzvah gift. He also insists that “all his friends” have it. We are both computer savvy and are well aware of the benefits and concerns about the internet and technology for young children as well as adults. Our gut

Motor Delays? APP-solutely It’s All About Toys

We live in an age where technology is increasingly encroaching on more areas of our lives. Of course, it was inevitable that our children’s toys would follow suit. Years ago, before a child’s first toy became an iPhone or iPad, children actually required motor skills for play. Their toys required a child to stack, bang or twist to make something

Empowering the Child with a Disability

Awhile back there arose out of the West a new movement, using a term that everybody thought they were familiar with, but which took on new momentum and significance. It was the “Self-Esteem” arena and a lot of confusion came with it. Many thought it meant always complimenting a child, never saying the child was wrong, perhaps even allowing a child to do

Talking Teens and Cars: The Conversation You Have to Have

(NewsUSA)—When you hand car keys to your teenager for the first time, your heart races as you think of what could happen. The fact is that car accidents are the number one cause of death among teens in the U.S., so it’s important to communicate the gravity of this newfound responsibility.

That’s why Trico Products (www.tricoproducts.com) has made a

Time for Baseball

There are many challenges to being a mom of all boys. Aside from the obvious physical differences, there is an entire world of sports that I had to learn about if I wanted to continue living in my home and remain reasonably sane. (I said reasonably; I am nowhere near sane or reasonable.) You learn that during football season, you can’t have a heart attack on a Sunday

Because It Matters

Choices Determine Who You Are

Whenever I ask my five-year-old daughter to make a decision, whether it’s about an outfit for school or which food she wants to eat for breakfast, it seems to take her a long time to make up her mind. The other night, I gave her permission to watch a short video before bed. By the time she finally chose a movie,

The Countdown

“Alright, let’s go.”

“I don’t want to go. Can’t we stay? Why do we have to go?” The voice has not yet risen, but it is on the verge.

Every parent has been there. It’s the end of a play date, time to leave the park, or????. At that point, we have two choices. You can hold firm and deal with the inevitable meltdown – tears, yelling, etc.

No More Homework

How many days of school are left? Come on, everybody has a calendar somewhere where they are “x”ing the days out and counting down until school is out. As Alice Cooper sang, “School’s out for summer!”

There are many reasons why you may be counting down. Maybe you are tired of carpooling. Maybe your child has had a challenging school year. Maybe you

“I Just Want Him to be the Best He Can Be”

Some time ago, I met with a couple who was concerned about their son. The boy, Andrew, was, at 9, the oldest of four children.  There was a sister, 6, and twins, 3.  The sister, Emily, was described as “happy-go-lucky, pleasant, easy to please” and the twins, Michael and James, due to several developmental problems, required many therapies both in and out of the

Everyone’s An Expert

Part of becoming a parent is learning to take advice from other people. It begins with the book What to Expect When Your Expecting (which is probably as bad as going on the web every time your stomach hurts, your feet look a little swollen or you cannot see your feet at all from eating too much marshmallow iced devils food cake.) Solicited, unsolicited, there