There is so much work that goes into the event before the band even shows up to the simcha. Playing an instrument or singing a song is different from writing an arrangement. Not everyone can arrange music—which includes harmonies, melodies and parts for the various instruments. The arrangements can take a great deal of time before the event, but the blend of the instruments and harmonies are worth it.
When meeting with the band, try to have a list of people (even just a general idea) who will be walking down. Things may change, but it helps to have a sense going in. This also helps the bandleader guide the song choices.
At the chuppah, it helps to have groups of people share one song rather than each person walking down to their own song. It keeps the chuppah flowing and is aesthetically more pleasing to the ear, while also reducing time and talking—making it an overall more enjoyable chuppah.
Remember that chazal say the Shechina as well as future descendants all come to the chuppah. The choice of songs for the chuppah should reflect the auspicious nature of the moment.
If you need someone to sing under your chuppah, please let the band know. Some charge a fee for this, some don’t. But either way, the band needs to know.
People often say the music is too loud. What they don’t realize is that the music needs a certain sound and beat to keep the energy level up and the crowd moving. Try arranging seating by putting younger people, who typically prefer the music louder, closer to the bandstand.
If the ba’alei simcha have a list of songs they want played at the event, know that there is a chance the band will not be able to get to all of them. Rank them by most preferred to least so the band knows where to prioritize. Also, not all songs will work for dancing and the band may have to make that decision in order to keep the feel of the dance.
The bands don’t always decide when a dance ends—the caterers do. Sometimes it’s better to have a 30-minute dance and leave everyone wanting more, than to have a 45-minute dance where people are walking off the dance floor in the end and the caterer has cold entrees.
No matter how much everyone plans, things may not go as originally anticipated. The good thing about hiring an experienced band is that they are able to improvise to meet any unexpected challenge, ensuring the simcha ends up being one that is cherished by family and guests alike.
Thank you to the Eitan Katz—Pure Simcha and Avi Maza Orchestra for their contribution and helpful advice.
By Jenny Gans
